Honest, Down-to-Earth Dating Advice From a Young Adult

I’m a single 20-something who’s been on plenty of dates, and I’ve learned a lot from them. Here are some of my best tips for your early 20s dating life from a young adult’s perspective.

And I’m happy to help out. I’m always happy to offer advice , but I do have some reservations about giving it out so freely, because I know that everyone is unique in how they are in a relationship and there are many ways one or both could be hurt. So when you read this article, please remember that it’s
not meant to give you the keys to a healthy relationship – just my perspective on what is working for me right now and why.

1. Everyone you date will have a personality.

Let’s talk about personalities. Personality is the combination of thoughts, feelings and behaviors that make a person unique. It’s formed by genetics, biology and environment.

Personality is your identity; it includes how you think, feel and act in different situations based on the way your brain works. Your personality affects the way you interact with others because it determines how people perceive you as well as how they behave towards you.

Traits are specific characteristics that make a person different from everyone else (for example: introvert vs extrovert). This article will discuss six traits that can help predict compatibility between two potential partners!

2. You need time to yourself.

You need time to yourself in your early 20s to figure out what you want, who you are without him/her, and how to deal with the world on your own. It’s okay if you aren’t too sure about what you want because many people your age or older still haven’t figured that out yet so don’t stress too much about it.

Don’t expect a relationship or marriage to solve all of your problems or make your life better (because it won’t). Relationship partners can offer support and help each other grow but ultimately everyone has their own problems and challenges they must face as individuals before they can be truly happy and content with themselves.

3. Loving yourself and being confident in who you are is more important than being in a relationship.

There are so many things to learn about yourself, and it’s important to take the time to find out who you are. The best piece of advice I can offer anyone is to love yourself first. That doesn’t mean forgetting when someone does something wrong or not realizing when someone isn’t right for you—it means being confident in who you are and how others see you.

It should come as no surprise that living with confidence makes people want to be around a person with self-esteem, too! So while it may seem like having a relationship would make your life easier and more exciting at first, remember that loving yourself comes first—and staying single doesn’t mean failing at love; it means being strong enough not settle for less than what you deserve or being alone forever just because someone else doesn’t see how great they could be with another person instead of just themselves!

4. Set yourself up for success by working towards being your best self with or without someone else in your life.

As you may have noticed, the dating world is like a giant game of Jenga. It’s a lot of fun to play, but when you remove the wrong piece of wood at the wrong time and everything comes crashing down, it can be pretty heartbreaking. If you want to avoid getting your heart broken in the future, keep in mind to:

Be yourself—no one else can do that for you. This applies on many levels: Your personality will attract people who resonate with your vibe, so if you try being someone else because they seem more appealing or successful than who you are naturally…well then there’s a good chance no one will date them either because they’re not who they really are either! The truth is that when we’re not being ourselves and trying too hard to be something we’re not (which usually ends up making us feel worse), we end up attracting people who aren’t right for us anyway! So focus on being confident in yourself and let go of any self-doubt before meeting someone new because if this person isn’t going to appreciate how amazing YOU truly ARE…then why would anyone else?

5. Stay away from situationships.

Stay away from situationships because they can be more harmful than beneficial as they can distract you from what’s really important, especially when it comes to relationships you want to last for years to come versus one that is only temporary for fun. If it’s serious, then fight for that love; otherwise stay focused on other areas of your life besides dating;

This is a tricky one because sometimes you just want to be single and have fun. But if you’re serious about relationships, then this should be a deal breaker. If you’re dating someone who couldn’t even hold your attention when they were single and had no other obligations, what makes you think they’ll suddenly turn into the perfect boyfriend/girlfriend?

I’ve been in situations where I’ve gotten too caught up with someone who was more concerned about their own lives than mine. They didn’t care enough to make an effort or put in any effort into our relationship, so why should I keep spending time on them? And, honestly, that should be okay. I don’t have time for that anymore because there are so many other things I want out of life–furthering my education, a career that inspires me, financial stability, a home etc.–and these things take priority over my love life as well as anyone else’s love life (unless we’re both willing).

6. Don’t date someone just because they’re pretty or cute.

Dating someone just because they’re pretty or cute isn’t going to make you happy in the long run; it’ll only make you miserable and disappointed because what if they don’t treat you well or what if the just aren’t a decent person overall. You need to be with someone who is a good person, not just someone who is good looking. If your partner is attractive but also has a personality that’s worth sticking around for, then that’s great! However, if not, then keep looking until you find someone who has both qualities (or at least one of the two).

The Takeaway

Dating can be a messy yet, enlightening process. It takes time to figure out who you are and what you want in a relationship. But the most important thing to remember is that it doesn’t have to be hard or stressful if you’re willing to listen to yourself first before anyone else.